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mums rule!
Thursday, 4 June 2009
Do you know why we’re not valued? … I'm sick of this sort of thing happening!
When I got caught up in a fight about the education department's duty of care to my son earlier, they all looked shocked...why??? was it because I was eloquent and knew my rights??? they even asked me what I did, I said I was a full time mum..then someone (who is still living...just!) said "but you're not JUST a mum are you?" ermmm.... what???? JUST a mum!!!
When you’re out and when someone asks you what you do…how many of you know whats going to happen when you say, I’m a mum, how many are proud to say I’m a carer (I am!!!). More importantly how many of you have said those words and seen the look of disinterest in the person's eyes. And I'm sorry to say it, especially if it's a man who's asked (and before you slap me ...not ALL men, I know a few very special ones follow my blog...but you are rarer than you think).Of course being just a mum and a carer means you couldn’t possibly have anything of interest to say. I’m sure they’ll soon be scuttling off just in case you start talking about nappy changing, children’s books or god forbid…childbirth or breastfeeding, after all, that’s all we could possibly know anything about because eeek! we're mums!
No, its true, we couldn’t possibly be working, doing degrees, couldn’t possibly be authors, couldn’t possibly speak two languages, run our own businesses, some of us doing it single handedly, and I know mums that know more about advertising, marketing, taxes, finances than most people in the room….nope, we're mums, carers…see ya!
Of course that person may have more luck next time, the next person they ask may be a teacher, a receptionist, a lawyer, a doctor, a chef…you know, someone who really contributes something to our society (because of course, mums don't! all we're doing is raising the next set of people who will effectively run the world!!!), they may find someone who doesn't sit at home all day drinking tea, eating cake and watching daytime TV…thank goodness, this time they might find someone who has something interesting to say.Of course, you may walk past them ten minutes later and hear them talking about Eastenders as if it's real life…what a shame you missed out on that intellectual conversation…after all, I for one wouldn’t be able to hold my own in a conversation about any of the soaps on TV…I don’t watch them, I’m far too busy editing, doing my tax returns, arranging hospital appointments and making sure my kids, husband and customers are happy to sit on my arse and watch TV!
Of all the stuff I do, being a mum is THE most important, the one thing I care about failing in, the one thing I will not mess up...because its the most important job in the world!!!
So when someone asks…say it, say I’m a MUM! I’m a carer, and you know what, if they look bored, feel free to tell them that there’s no point in having a conversation with you because YOU are way out of their league, there’s no way they could understand someone as complex as you…they don’t hold a candle to you and I hope you all know that.
Right, I’m off to beat someone up…LOL!!!
Sal xxx
weight issues
Monday, 9 February 2009
If kate Winslet looks at herself in the mirror and thinks she’s fat, what hope have the rest of us got. Okay so she’s not the thinnest of all the stars…but that’s a good thing. She’s one of the few who actually look healthy.
Kate states, “I feel fat and unhappy sometimes. As a young girl, I never felt attractive. I was fat and unhappy at times and that kind of thinking stays with you your entire life. There's always going to be a part of me that worries about not looking as slim as other actresses."
I know we are all self critical, there is undoubtedly some part of us we might like a little different, a bit flatter, a bit smaller, a bit slimmer. But to suggest that she is fat is a little over the top.
My daughter saw the report and said “she’s not fat though is she mum?”
“NO!” me and her dad said.
As grownups we can see it, but as a fourteen year old, impressionable child, I fear my daughter is going to pay more attention to what stars say. I’m very careful not to make derogative comments about my own body in front of my daughter, we tell her how people come in all shapes and sizes, and as long as you’re healthy, it doesn’t matter if you’re a size six or a size sixteen.
And we can’t stress enough to the kids that it is important not to compare yourself to other people.
But I remember being fourteen and fifteen, and I have no false illusions about my children thinking I know better than Victoria Beckham or Angelina Joley!
I was a little disappointed when I read the interview, because Kate Winslet is one of the ones that always seemed down to earth and less worried about her weight and image than most.
I know some of you are going to argue that by saying this it shows people that we look better than we think, and that we sometimes have a false self image. But my daughter, her friends, my nieces and goddaughters all got the same message from it...you have to be ultra thin to be glamorous!
And quite frankly, if kate's fat, I'm a whale!
