Sally's World

Recently, I have been asked for advice, and am at a loss what to think and say. I try to be very careful when giving advice, seeing it from both sides and being very clear about it only being one persons opinion.


Does a bully have to realise they are a bully to actually be a bully?


If someone feels intimidated, not of physical violence, but emotionally, anger even, then is it a fact that they are being bullied, or is it possible they just feels bullied.


I don't know if this is making sense actually, but if someone has to adjust their behaviour, for fear of how another person will react, are theybullied?


If the would be bully shows no outward signs that they are behaving in an intimidating manner, even perhaps doesn't think they are...is it still bullying?


This person certainly likes to be in control, certainly can be selfish, but is it a character trait, or a bullying trait???


What would you say if a friend asked you?????

I had a nightmare that I was stuck in a windowless, airless room with eleven people I do not know, I have nothing in common with, and to be brutally honest, would not choose as my friends....

It's a rabble of arguing, shouting, often screaming and slamming of fists on tables, one of the men in my dream is being patronising, winking at me and seems letchy, I want to hit him over the head with a chair, one of the women cries alot, another man has a body odour problem.... we are cut off from the outside world, our phones confiscated, no TV, no papers, NO COMPUTER....we are hungry, drained, tired, taking antacids and aspirin in equal measures.... we cannot have hot food, the coffee is bloody awful, I am losing the will to live....

ONLY ITS NOT A BLOODY DREAM, IT'S MY SECOND WEEK OF JURY SERVICE....

We have heard the evidence, and are now deliberating, and I can't see us agreeing on the fact that the sky is blue or the grass is green, let alone an actual verdict....

I know why they can't have windows, because if there was one, I'd bloody well throw myself out of it....

HELP!!!!!!

Hi everyone, sorry I've neglected the blogs over the last couple of days ... I've been poorly in bed since Sunday night, caught some sort of weird virus and thought my head exploding was a real possibility, and preferable to how I was feeling. Now of course it looks as if a tornado has occurred in every room in the house….but restoring order can wait, still feeling to fragile to tackle it…

I guess even Wonder Woman gets ill, although the outfit would clash with the slight green tinge of my face today. Lets hope the postman doesn't need to knock, I've traumatised him enough lately.

I'm just glad that I didn't get ill until after Trojan and I did our video and radio blog on Sunday afternoon...it was alot of fun, and we're very pleased with the results, and hope lots of you tuned in and have had a listen since.

Right, I’m indoors today, but merely dosing on the sofa feeling sorry for myself, doing nothing more strenuous than lifting large quantities of chocolates to my mouth…need large supply of chocolates to regain the half stone I lost in the last 2 days.

So I'll be back as right as rain tomorrow (I hope) especially considering Deion has physio, hospital and O.T appointments. Oh joy!

Speak soon

Sal

Today, I thought I’d tell you what we have achieved so far in such a short space of time. The video and written blogs have been raising awareness, and lots of people are e-mailing to say they are finding them very helpful. One of our main aims was to be able to reach out to people in need, and that seems to be working, so we are very proud.

The T-shirt and book sales are up by over 40% which means we have been able to put more money towards the charity.

As well as the UK, we have got readers and viewers from the USA, Spain, Greece, India, Saudi Arabia, Belize, St Lucia, Grenada, Ghana and Gambia.

What would be really good, is if you felt like you could tell your stories too, tell others what you’ve been through and how you dealt with it and coped. It’s really therapeutic, I promise you.

It would be helpful to get other peoples takes on things, for me also. So far you’ve just heard my point of view and how we’ve coped as a family, but we all have different ways of doing things, there are no rules, no rights and wrongs, but if one thing you say helps someone else, then it will be worth it.

Also it would be very interesting to see how having special needs and disabilities affects people who live in other countries with regards to education, equipment, hospital care, physio care…. the list goes on.

So if you feel you are able to share you stories or experiences, then please e-mail, or comment here. It would be great to get a sort of support network going where we can all help each other and give advice on what we know, and get advice on what we still need to learn. You can comment anonymously if you like, so you don’t have to feel any pressure.

So please feel free, and be as honest as you like (I think!!!).

Look forward to hearing from you.

Sal & Trojan x