Compliments are Complicated!  

Monday, 16 March 2009

Why oh why is it so hard to accept a compliment?

I never know what to say when someone compliments me, I usually mutter a shy thank you, or almost give the complimenter (is that even a word) a reason not to have said anything remotely nice about me in the first place.

e.g. ‘that’s a nice shirt’ would warrant an eye roll from me, and the reply ‘what this old thing?’ regardless of the fact that it may be brand new/my favourite thing/make me look gaawjuss!

Today, I had a meeting, nothing major, but I shucked my usual jeans and sweatshirt for a skirt suit and heels, I found the all elusive lipstick, added some mascara, got the hair straighteners on my hair…yep, I spent about an hour trying to make myself look totally natural!!!

So when I bumped into a friend and he said “hey, you look nice.” why couldn’t I just say “thanks,” and smile…nope, I rolled my eyes so far back in my head I think I got a glimpse of my own brain….then I sort of scoffed and made some joke about how bad I must usually look.

The truth is, when I pay someone a compliment, I want them to look them in the eye and them to know I mean it; I want them to feel nice.

So the eye rolling, scoffing and refusal to believe that anyone would want to pay me a compliment, is actually denying that person the pleasure of giving me a bloody compliment in the first place!!!

So I’ll try to do better…when ever we get a compliment people, we must look the complimenter (there’s that word again) right in the eye, acknowledge it and thank them, because despite all our denials, everyone loves a compliment. And we all deserve them from time to time!

You watch now….no-ones going to compliment me again…ever! I’ve scared them all off!!!

Have a great day

sal xxx

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12 comments: to “ Compliments are Complicated!

  • Cammie
    16 March 2009 at 19:22  

    I tend to do the same thing!

  • Deb
    16 March 2009 at 19:30  

    here... i will give you an opportunity to redeem yourself!

    your hair in the black and white photo of you on your blog is adorable.

  • ~Tom~
    16 March 2009 at 19:38  

    When you figure out how to do that let me know. I will then introduce you to my wife. You can teach her. She does exactly the same thing to me when I pay her a compliment. Only she will take it a step further and at some point in the future complain that I never say anything nice about her. No matter what I just can't win.

  • septembermom
    16 March 2009 at 23:27  

    I can so relate to what you are saying about receiving a compliment. At my own wedding, I remember rolling my eyes when I got compliments. I always downplay whatever someone notices. I agree with you that I should remember to give the "complimenter" the satisfaction of saying a nice thing. I'm glad that I visited your blog after stopping by Becca's blog. I enjoyed my visit here :)

  • Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short)
    16 March 2009 at 23:44  

    Let's practice....

    I really like your blog picture. You have a beautiful smile. And Deb's right, an adorable hair style!

  • Missy
    17 March 2009 at 00:13  

    I'm with Deb, You are a doll! Accept those compliments girl!

  • mrosev14
    17 March 2009 at 00:20  

    Very funny, I understand where you're coming from!

  • Cozyflier
    17 March 2009 at 04:02  

    Must be a 'girl' thing. I do the same thing!!

    Maybe you should start a club! We could practice giving each other compliments!

    I agree with others, you picture is great, love your haircut.

  • Sassypants Wifey
    17 March 2009 at 07:39  

    Thank you for the comments. You will have no way of knowing how much they mean to me. But know that your provide so much help. Thank You

  • Our Family
    17 March 2009 at 16:16  

    Hey Sally,
    I feel the same way I hate being confronted with compliments but I always love to get them:) Just never know what to say I'm too shy. I love your video blog by the way very cool!

  • Sally's World
    17 March 2009 at 17:15  

    thank you all my beautiful and amazing blog friends, i am smiling and graciously accepting the compliments, you are all wonderful and make me smile every day with your posts, comments and pictures...thank you, you all make a difference in my life. XOXOXO

  • Candance
    21 March 2009 at 00:06  

    You do have the cute hair, and coming from me, that's huge cause you read my blog, so you know how I am ;0).

    When people compliment, I can barely squeak out a thanks most times cause I get way embarrassed even though I take two hours to make up, blow dry, flat iron, tease and accessorize to leave the house. It's gotta be a girl thing.

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