Wednesday, 13 May 2009

Aaron passed away three years ago now…3 years, two months and eight days to be exact.

So imagine how I felt when I got a lovely big letter through the post, in Aaron’s name, with leaflets and brochures about the adult learning centres that were available to us, as Aaron would be turning eighteen this year and leaving full time, special needs education.

Now, I expect the odd letter from the dentist/opticians/brochures we prescribed to. ..But call me naive, didn’t really expect them from any kind of government run department.

When Aaron should have turned sixteen I got a letter talking about changes in benefits, and other educational provision, and I rang them up and gave them a bollocking that would have made a sailor blush. So it seems strange they have made the same mistake again.

When Aaron passed away, I rang the benefit people, they had no trouble stopping his benefits, I had an adapted vehicle for him at the time part funded by a special scheme, and within a week of his passing they turned up to collect it, with no regard for the fact that I needed it for Deion too, child benefit, yep, all stopped. And worse thing of all, Aaron’s one to one key worker at school, a lovely girl called Mel, who had (understandably) gotten attached to Aaron, was told the day after he passed away that she was out of a job…with complete disregard for the fact that the poor girl was grieving also.

So they don’t seem to have a problem stopping anything that costs them money, no problem making sure that there is no unnecessary outlay…god no, I had visions of them rubbing their hands together at all the money they were going to save now that Aaron was no longer on their list!!!! Bastards!!!!

So now, am I totally stupid in thinking that somewhere in the governments special needs education system, the very system that deals with education of all kids with special needs, that there is information on Aaron, information with regards to his passing???

I’m incensed, angry beyond words…I know its just a letter, I know these people are more incompetent than a bunch of chimps at a tea party…couldn’t organise a piss up in a brewery…yep, I know all this…but the truth is these letters are heartbreaking, they put you back months.

I KNOW you dozy, lazy, incompetent arse holes what Aaron SHOULD be doing…you complete utter useless shits…I KNOW about all the thing I SHOULD be having to arrange for my soon to be eighteen year old son….so thank you so much for the reminder, how kind of you, and how lucky you are that guns are illegal in this country, because if I owned one I just might be tempted to use you all as target practice!!!

Is there a government workers manifesto we know nothing of, something along the lines of
1) clients must be thoroughly ignored at all times
2) when it is impossible to ignore them, they must be treated with complete contempt
3) complete disregard for feelings must be adhered to at all times
4) you must never ever call back when you say you will
5) if you see an opportunity to upset/depress/stress/anger a client, it must be taken, at all times.

How many grieving wives/mothers/sons/daughters have to put up with this????

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14 comments: to “ Define…incompetent!

  • J.J. in L.A.
    13 May 2009 at 11:13  

    Jeez, what a bunch of asses! My mom is dealing with this too. Her husband died of Leukemia 10 years ago July, and he's still getting mail.

  • Sally's World
    13 May 2009 at 12:08  

    OH GOD!!! 10 years!!!! they spend millions in tax payers money devising these computer systems that all but make the hard to have a name (or yes, i know, we are nothing but numbers to them) wiped off the bloody system!!!????

  • Anonymous
    13 May 2009 at 12:09  

    If you have a name, I wouldn't mind paying them a visit.

  • Cammie
    13 May 2009 at 14:28  

    ohhh, Im so sorry.

  • Heather
    13 May 2009 at 14:52  

    Oh, honey - I'm sorry. People are such idiots sometimes, even (or especially) the government.

  • The Me/ The Wife/ The Mom
    13 May 2009 at 14:55  

    Sal - I'm sorry you are getting these cold reminders of your if you needed any.

    My father died when I was 14... (25 years ago this year!) my mother, to this day once every other year or so, still gets mail in his name regarding something or other utter bullshit. Strangely as a teenager..I'd squire away anything that came with his name on it. I think it was further proof for me...that he existed still..other than in my heart and mind. How strange is that?

  • Becca
    13 May 2009 at 14:56  

    Oh gosh! I am so sorry you have to deal with this. It is obvious that they are insensitive to the situation. People can be quite ignorant. By the way, I love the picture!

    Also, thank you sooooo much for all of your kind words. You always make me smile. I appreciate it so much!

  • RileyScott
    13 May 2009 at 15:05  

    Sal, I'm sorry that the incompetent idiot upset you. Truly, I am

    But I think you have it spot on with that list at the end.

  • Randi Troxell
    13 May 2009 at 15:35  

    its like pulling a scab of a wound.. though i have not lost a child.. i've been there with another family member and im sorry this happened to you... you'll be in my thoughts as these asses brought it all back to you.

  • Melinda
    13 May 2009 at 16:34  

    Sweetie, I am so, so sorry. You'd think with all of the money we pay in taxes they could afford to keep better records so that things like this don't happen.

  • Dragon
    13 May 2009 at 17:48  

    It is trully sad how the government runs. Things are just as bad over here and the same instance would happen here too. They care nothing about the person, only the dollar amount. And they all wonder why things are going to shit in a hand basket.

  • K
    13 May 2009 at 23:34  

    That's really terrible! I am so sorry!
    It is definitely true what you say about the amazing amount of incompetence! It's so good we don't run our own lives that way!

  • Missy
    14 May 2009 at 02:05  

    So sorry you are having to deal with this! Completely ridiculous! I am so so sorry!

  • Sally's World
    14 May 2009 at 08:20  

    thanks everyone, as usual, your comments help me fell supported and to get things in perspective. xoxoxox

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