Thursday, 4 June 2009
When I got caught up in a fight about the education department's duty of care to my son earlier, they all looked shocked...why??? was it because I was eloquent and knew my rights??? they even asked me what I did, I said I was a full time mum..then someone (who is still living...just!) said "but you're not JUST a mum are you?" ermmm.... what???? JUST a mum!!!When you’re out and when someone asks you what you do…how many of you know whats going to happen when you say, I’m a mum, how many are proud to say I’m a carer (I am!!!). More importantly how many of you have said those words and seen the look of disinterest in the person's eyes. And I'm sorry to say it, especially if it's a man who's asked (and before you slap me ...not ALL men, I know a few very special ones follow my blog...but you are rarer than you think).
Of course being just a mum and a carer means you couldn’t possibly have anything of interest to say. I’m sure they’ll soon be scuttling off just in case you start talking about nappy changing, children’s books or god forbid…childbirth or breastfeeding, after all, that’s all we could possibly know anything about because eeek! we're mums!
No, its true, we couldn’t possibly be working, doing degrees, couldn’t possibly be authors, couldn’t possibly speak two languages, run our own businesses, some of us doing it single handedly, and I know mums that know more about advertising, marketing, taxes, finances than most people in the room….nope, we're mums, carers…see ya!
Of course that person may have more luck next time, the next person they ask may be a teacher, a receptionist, a lawyer, a doctor, a chef…you know, someone who really contributes something to our society (because of course, mums don't! all we're doing is raising the next set of people who will effectively run the world!!!), they may find someone who doesn't sit at home all day drinking tea, eating cake and watching daytime TV…thank goodness, this time they might find someone who has something interesting to say.
Of course, you may walk past them ten minutes later and hear them talking about Eastenders as if it's real life…what a shame you missed out on that intellectual conversation…after all, I for one wouldn’t be able to hold my own in a conversation about any of the soaps on TV…I don’t watch them, I’m far too busy editing, doing my tax returns, arranging hospital appointments and making sure my kids, husband and customers are happy to sit on my arse and watch TV!
Of all the stuff I do, being a mum is THE most important, the one thing I care about failing in, the one thing I will not mess up...because its the most important job in the world!!!
So when someone asks…say it, say I’m a MUM! I’m a carer, and you know what, if they look bored, feel free to tell them that there’s no point in having a conversation with you because YOU are way out of their league, there’s no way they could understand someone as complex as you…they don’t hold a candle to you and I hope you all know that.
Right, I’m off to beat someone up…LOL!!!